Listen to the song 1st and then you'll understand how it inspired this blog post from me. Like I told you guys, this blog is basically my life....in vivid detail. I give you the truth....always.
The Do Better Blues
By Keith Kareem Williams
Life is crazy ain't it? They never miss you until you're missing. Sometimes people cheat themselves because they don't listen to their own intuition, not realizing that the show is over and it won't be resuming after the intermission. Sometimes they're so used to the people that hurt them that they forget that you're a different kind of man. As a matter of fact, it's a little bit more than that. You're MORE than all of the men that they've met but they don't see it. It's just not time yet. After the music stops they'll sing the song to the same old song acapella. It's actually a tragedy when they say that they miss you badly.
You have to forgive them sometimes when they only seek out and see the bad. It's the lingering side-effect of every other man they've had. Life can get heavy when you've seen the same stories played out a thousand places but the only thing that changes are the faces. Crying becomes a familiar sound around you. You end up wiping away too many tears, only for the cycle to start all over again. The same process definitely become tiresome and makes your soul weary.
You always have a choice. You can try to be the savior but can you really rescue a person from their own behavior? Sometimes people don't want to change and who told you that they wanted to be saved? Truthfully, you're not even always in a position to save anyone, especially when it feels like you can't even save yourself.
Be cautious and walk carefully with people who only seem to see you when they need you. It doesn't make them evil, bad or mean-spirited. I'm just saying that it's better to find someone who loves you all the time, madly. Anything less will end baldy and tragically.
Don't feel bad. At times we ALL lose, only to feel the full weight of the Do Better Blues. Just remember that you always have the right to choose. Open your eyes sometimes and what you NEED will be right there, as plain as the nose on your face. I promise. If you are one of the people that love me FOR REAL, know that I'll love you back...always...... until they bury me.....even if we're apart.
Everyone can't be a superhero. Sometimes people need to fail in order to succeed. All that's really needed is the support to lend a hand once they've fallen and realize they need a hand to stand. Some don't know they have fallen and some aren't ready to stand yet.
ReplyDeleteGood points Lena. It gets complicated, confusing and often painful when we don't understand what stage we're in and what we really NEED.
ReplyDeleteWhen there's growth after a relationship, it was worth it... good, bad or indifferent. Life is all about growth and learning how to love. There are so many dimensions to that energy of love and some people don't know the true meaning of it. Others can only love superficially because that's the only way they've ever been loved. Others, oftentimes those who are spiritually connected and balanced know what real, unconditional love is because they know and live with the love of God in their hearts. There's no other energy that is greater. I think when you've touched the face God in meditation and or intentful prayer, you somehow transcend your judgements and ego-based realities into more of an understanding of those around you and by dropping your ego, you're not loving someone based on what they can do for you, or how they make you feel... its based on the revelation of how wonderfully dynamic this person is WITH and WITHOUT their "flaws" or shortcomings. .... It takes a few "lessons" in relationships and self-reflection to come to these realizations. It also requires a need to break the cycle and be Free from the constraints of typical judgmental "relationships" where incomplete people come together with hopes of the other person completing them. True, lasting happiness can only come from within. Those ideals are destined for failure.
ReplyDeleteSome will understand, some just wont... but when you love fully and unconditionally, so will be your blessings in life :)
I like that comment so much that I'm going to ask you to write a Guest Blog for me khryztyne...if you don't mind. It can be on any subject you want.
ReplyDelete"It also requires a need to break the cycle and be Free from the constraints of typical judgmental "relationships" where incomplete people come together with hopes of the other person completing them."
ReplyDeleteWhat you've stated here is so powerful and true.
A personal goal of mine, AFTER many life/love experiences is to be true to who I am and if that intersects with love so be it, if not- I'll still be content with who I am alone.
@Ann, thanks for checking out my blog. I love comments like yours because i know that I'm not insan because of the way i see things.
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